By Helen FisherWhy do we fall in love with certain people? Why do we stay in love? What drives others away? Our personality, along with our mate's personality, can determine how & why we are attracted to each other.
Fisher seems to be a very thorough and intelligent person. She is an anthropologist, not a psychologist, and therefore takes a scientific view of relationships. However, she says nothing new. She even admits that her personality test is a modification of the Myers Briggs Test first created in the early 1960's... all she did was change the names to Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.
In the end, this just seemed like a Match.com ad, especially since they hired her to come up with a compatibility test. Right there, I lost a little respect for the formula. If Fisher had included more real life examples, it would have been more interesting. Instead, the book rehashes the same traits over & over. Okay, we get it -- Explorers should stay clear of other Explorers, because someone has to stay home. Negotiators should be wary of Directors, because they might lose their fun-loving spirit. At the same time, Fisher never discourages any match... anyone can fall in love! Then what's the point in reading this book?
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